My brother and I played
Mackie and Jackie,
Mackie was the strong one (my brother)
Jackie was the smart one (me) who told us what to do.
When our family was introduced by great aunts or my grandmother,
They would say, “This is Susan, Clara, Nancy
And Robert Romulus Moore the Fourth!
Being the last sister before the boy
Made me invisible.
At five, I was left at a rest stop
Because I went to the bathroom a second time.
My dad would drive until my bladder
Felt like it would burst.
The rest stop was in the mountains
Without exit ramps for miles
After, it took my father a long time
To run back along the highway to get me, I’m told.
I don’t remember.
Sometime that same year,
My dad came home from the hospital,
Post car-accident coma.
My mother took me to the doctor
For strep throat, again,
And I fell out of the car on the way home
In the middle of an intersection.
I ran for several blocks
Chasing our station wagon,
The right, back door swung open,
Before my mother noticed.
Swabbing my bleeding knees and hands,
“Don’t tell your father when we get home.
He might have a seizure.”
As a six year old
The stair landing was a convenient
Catch-mom-going-to-do-laundry,
Halfway point,
“Are you and dad getting divorced?”
I was sitting in the middle of
Sifting through burn-barrel trash,
The contents scattered around me,
Kleenex, scraps of note paper, newspapers
And shiny white tubes that slid in and out.
Later I would know
These as tampon inserters.
Mom’s face boiled and pinched.
I found it curious that she was more mad
About my question
Than from my playing
In her personal trash.
At eleven
I couldn’t sleep on my stomach
Because my chest hurt,
My mom took me to the doctor
Probably so he could explain my body to me
Better than she could,
He roughly stuck round band-aids on each nipple,
He did not talk to me and he did not say
It’s normal to have knots of pain
In budding breasts.
After my mother had “female surgery”
I wrote a poem,
Something about taking time to smell the roses,
A thirteen-year-old’s idea
Of cheering up her mother.
Church camp that weekend
Was chilled and stiff,
Mom’s face hung in hurt-lines,
I accepted her condemnation
A cheap, scratchy-laced nightgown
Against my bones.
At twelve,
I was practically decapitated
Riding my bike across the neighbor’s property line,
The newly, unmarked wire
Strung exactly neck high.
“You shouldn’t have been riding
That close to their house.”
Over the next years,
The shouldn’ts expanded into
“You shouldn’t flaunt yourself”
“You shouldn’t hurt people’s feelings”
“You shouldn’t be selfish”
“You shouldn’t be too confident”
“You shouldn’t ask questions.”
My first marriage lasted 3 & 1/2 years,
We date my entire teenage and college years,
I gifted this time to him,
Unquestioned.
My mother found my supply
Of birth control pills between my 2nd and 3rd year of college
“If you’re going to sleep with him
You need to get married.”
I sit on my mom and dad’s screened-in porch
Explaining how the wedding for which they paid,
How the vows I promised would last,
How my world had veered in a drastically different direction
From theirs,
“I hired a private detective….
I won’t stay in a marriage with a cheating husband…
I gave him the separation papers,”
I fling helpless words
At their blank faces.
I leave out the part where my husband
Explained his wandering was
My fault
“If you hadn’t let me do so many
Things without you;
If you had just told me no.”
Almost thirty,
I feel like calling mom
For the first time in years,
“Hello,” mom answers
In that distant, reluctant way.
“The neonatologist at my hospital,
Who is super-conservative, he never approves anything,
Is going to let me do massages on the NICU babies.
Can you believe that?”
Silence,
Throat clear,
“What’s wrong with being a pharmacist?”
The phone receiver
Burns my ear.
After working at the hospital for 6 years,
I learned from listening to the
Labor and delivery room nurses
That I didn’t want to be one of those
“Yelling” laboring moms.
Thirty-six hours into
Pushing out a 10 lb. baby
Can evaporate the resolve
To not be a “yeller,”
Alone in my
Bone-shattering,
Baby-extracting marathon,
I didn’t care
Whether I lived or died,
And yelled this fact frequently.
Not even my baby girl
Nestled in her daddy’s arms
Could budge me from
My pain reverie,
My shocked focus on
When I could get
Another dose of pain medication.
Now a real boss,
Just turned fifty,
Telling people what to do.
My friend, an orthopedic surgeon,
Asked for crossing over help
For a physician friend
With end-stage pancreatic cancer,
Ghost/spirit whispering being my secret life.
His friend wasn’t finished living,
Refused to cross over, firmly.
I watched him hopelessly drag his body around
Trying to find a place to plug in his light body
Which was withdrawn all the way to the
Top of his head (last place before dying).
My friend always states the obvious,
“No one lives for over a year with end-stage pancreatic cancer.
He shouldn’t still be alive.”.
After observing his friend deny his body’s decay
And ignore his wife’s exhausted vigil,
I had to agree.
“You’re right. He shouldn’t.”